Called for Self-Care

Self Care

As humans, when we learn about or face circumstances that call into question our mortality or if we experience a real or perceived threat to our survival, please know that it’s only natural that our primary focus and energy would be geared towards exploring how we can maintain a sense of safety, security, and stability for ourselves and our loved ones. Essentially, this preoccupation becomes a primary goal that essentially pushes all other goals to the background. I share this as it is my hope to encourage everyone to be kind to themselves and know that this is a normal human response. Please have some compassion for whatever difficult and unpleasant emotions you may be experiencing at this time. Give yourself permission and time to experience and process whatever you are feeling. And remember taking the time to do so is a much deserved and deliberate act of self-care.

Self-care not only promotes and highlights your resiliency but it provides a sense of comfort when faced with life’s challenges. Self-care starts with first checking-in with yourself to see how you are responding to the circumstances around you.

You may ask yourself: What am I most concerned about? How am I feeling? How am I coping? How am I caring for myself during this difficult time? What can I do for myself to feel safe/secure?

Use the insights from these questions to develop a personalized self-care plan. Self-care activities seek to promote wellness among one or more wellness dimensions (i.e., social; emotional/psychological; physical; intellectual; spiritual; occupational; environmental).

Some self-care ideas include:

Social self-care:

  • Talk to supportive family members and friends.
  • Pursue fun and pleasant activities with loved ones.
  • Spend time with pets (Playing, cuddling, caring for).
  • Join a community support group/network.

Emotional/psychological self-care:

  • Learn to recognize, verbalize, and manage your feelings.
  • Try emotional expression through writing, music, visual art, movement-based creative expression and expressive writing- These forms of emotional expression can help people to explore, express and release thoughts and feelings that are too difficult to speak about directly.
  • Highlight good times- Think about when you felt most safe (what were you doing? who were you with? where were you? etc.).
  • Consider personal counselling/psychotherapy.
  • Create a Gratitude journal- consider what you can be appreciative of in the present moment.

Physical self-care:

  • Eat healthy
  • Get adequate sleep
  • Maintain good personal grooming
  • Engage in moderate exercise
  • Participate in relaxation exercises (progressive muscle relaxation, deep breathing, massages etc.)
  • If applicable, take any prescribed medication.

Intellectual self-care:

  • Pursue intellectual interests.
  • Read for pleasure.
  • Pick up a new hobby or learn a new skill.

Spiritual self-care:

  • Consider spiritual activities focused on creating meaning and purpose.
  • Engage in Mindfulness Practices.
  • Pray or mediate.
  • Speak with a spiritual leader.
  • Spend time in nature.

Lastly, please keep in mind that engaging in self-care is not a selfish act. Self-care is an act of love for yourself and others. Self-care enables you to be there for others and tend to tasks to the best of your abilities. Ultimately, when you take care of yourself, you have more and better to give to your work and your loved ones. And eventually you will feel better equipped and capable to tackle those self-initiated endeavors. You may want to track your self-care activities here: Self-Care Log

Helping You Harvest Your Best Fruits!

Darlene Cyrus Blaize, Ed.D, RP

Life Coach & Registered Psychotherapist